I came across this quote the other day: "to the world you are one person, but to one person you are the world", and i gotta tell ya, it really got to me. It made me realise that I spend too much time worrying about being on people's good side, too much time socialising with people who probably when it all comes down to it, couldnt care less about me. And honestly, I dont spend enough time with the people who love me, who really care about me. Maybe I'm exaggerating, but you've got to admit that if in your lifetime you can count out a handful of real friends, i mean someone who would do anything to help you, who genuinely cares about what happens to you, who would risk humiliation, risk being an outcast, just to stand by your side, well if you can count out a handful of those friends then you're so way beyond lucky its crazy.
The point is, you're going to come across alot of people throughout your life. Some will be friends, some will not, some will be interesting, some will be boring as hell, but the heart of the matter is that these people will come and go. Sure it's great knowing them, but most people arent meant to be in your life forever. It took me a long time to accept this, and I dont know if I fully have yet, but you cant spend your life being mad over lost friendships. It was great while it lasted, and you should count yourself lucky to have known that person, no matter how it ended. Remember the good times, keep the memories, but know that just as people come into your life at a certain time and for a certain reason, they must leave it too.
You're lucky if you have someone who really c ares for you, and you'd be a fool to take them for granted and waste your time looking for greener pastures so to speak. There are over 6 billion people in the world, and they all cant like you. So save your precious time for those who do.
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Hey Zeens, wow I'm really impressed by your blogs! Never knew about this kind of e-forum (then again, I'm technologically RETARDED)its very worthwhile. Some of your posts could read like something directly out of a literary publication; very concise, thoughtful, eloquent and articulate. Perhaps a long and successful career of writing ahead of you???
As regards to your post on friendship, weird, but me and some of my girls were talking about this just the other night. It's as though humans by nature are designed to accumulate different people all the time, and for specific reasons. If you will, we 'use' certain people for the benefits they provide at a precise stage and moment of your life, and when this has past, the relationship/friendship becomes obsolete. Not necessarily a BAD thing, but this is exactly how people get hurt. Seeing as society now overrules nature (humans are losing all but their most intrinsic instincts), behaving in this way becomes the norm and as the years go on (and the world gets smaller) the understanding our parents had in their generation of 'friendship' will be lost on that of our childrens' generations. Sad but true. I'll tell you something though Zeens; sometimes people do amaze me. I always use you and Katie as examples of this. Despite coming from COMPLETELY different cultures, backgrounds, and growing up thousands of miles away from each other,-the similiarities I have with either of you are not just on an ideological or personality basis,-they go right to the bone. And that's what's truly important. It's actually very humbling to consider this. Spending 20 odd years believing that heritage, family, culture and intrinsic nature made me a unique individual like no other. But like I say, the world is shrinking, and through Fate, or just sheer good luck, I meet some amazing people who I realise I either have so much in common with, or admire so much, that I count myself blessed to have ever even known them, let alone consider them a friend. As I say, very humbling to realise there are others out there who make what I say, believe and do that little bit less unique. So if you're considering your friendships, consider this...by a random movement of Fate or causality we ended up in the same university. We both have a passion for music and speaking and so gravitated toword radio. We ended up in the same slot, on the same morning. We ended up having some great times together and I think, really complimented each others' performances (and I'm not the only person to make that comment). I do believe everything happens for a reason, but I draw a line at the very selfish assumption above, what I was discussing. I believe that if someone provdies something important in your life, you hang on to them and provide for them too, not merely allow them to dissipate once their walk-on part in your life is over. And I belive that friendships that are only possible in a situation like college, where thousands of miles are crossed to make them possible, are the life-long kind and very special. So when you're considering your handful of 'true' friends,-who would help, cherish, fight for, provide for and do anything just to see you smile for,-consider our friendship, which I think Fate may have had a hand in forging. Looking forward to seeing you in person again babe. Stay safe, stay gorgeous, stay wonderful-you XXX
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